How The Romance Narrative in Kal Ho Naa Ho Reduces Naina's Character to a Damsel in Distress
Mahnoor Zafar- Nov 26, 2023
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The movie “Kal Ho Naa Ho,” despite its immense popularity and acclaim, presents a Romance Narrative that is problematic in its portrayal of gender dynamics. Gender roles follow a stereotypical plot line – the film presents an empathetic mother, a pain-in-the-neck grandmother, a female lead who is independent but needs “saving”, a fat friend who is constantly body-shamed – the list goes on. The film, set against the vibrant backdrop of New York City, tells the story of Naina, a young, independent woman, and Aman, the charismatic male lead who enters her life and becomes her Prince Charming. On the surface, Kal Ho Naa Ho appears to celebrate Naina’s strength and independence. However, a deeper analysis reveals a troubling undercurrent in the way her growth is depicted.
Naina, initially portrayed as a strong and independent character, is shown to be grappling with various challenges in her life. She deals with constant bickering between her mother and grandmother at home, works and is enrolled in an advanced level MBA course class. She acts as a pillar of support to her siblings and ensures her household does not fall apart after the death of her father. While this portrayal is empowering, the narrative gradually undermines her independence by positioning Aman as the key to resolving her struggles. Aman, with his larger-than-life persona, not only invades Naina’s space but also assumes the role of her protector and guide. He takes charge of changing her outlook on life, implying that her strength is insufficient without his intervention. Naina’s characteristics paint a false sense of independence which disintegrates as soon as Aman is introduced. The audience often seems to overlook this pseudo-power and mistakes Naina for having substance.
This dynamic becomes problematic as it perpetuates the stereotype that a woman, regardless of her own strength, ultimately needs a man to ‘fix’ her life. The film, under the guise of romance, subtly enforces the idea that a woman’s independence is incomplete without male validation and support. Aman’s role in Naina’s transformation overshadows her own agency, reducing her to a character who is strong, but not strong enough to handle her life without a man’s guidance.
Moreover, the narrative romanticizes Aman’s overbearing involvement in Naina’s life, blurring the lines between caring and controlling behavior. His actions are portrayed as romantic and selfless, overshadowing the importance of Naina’s consent and choice. Aman’s character can be read alternatively – he is a mansplaining, misogynistic guy who justifies his actions via his illness. This aspect of their relationship, often overlooked by the audience, raises concerns about the message it sends regarding gender roles and relationships.
In conclusion, while “Kal Ho Naa Ho” is celebrated for its heartwarming story and memorable music, its Romance Narrative is problematic. It undermines the female lead’s independence by depicting her as ultimately dependent on the male lead for her happiness and fulfilment. This portrayal reinforces outdated gender stereotypes and overlooks the importance of a woman’s autonomy in a romantic relationship.